Looking Presidential-Hillary

“Not necessarily attractive.”

“Maybe Hillary should smile *less* …

“Well, I just don’t think she has a presidential look,”


This week’s debate marked a milestone in American History. The first female candidate of a major political party sparred with the male counterpart on the opposing side. Yet analysts and viewers alike still find a way to make sexism a part of the conversation.

Fox News’ Brit Hume said after this week’s debate, “I Think, For The Most Part, [Clinton] Looked Composed, Smug Sometimes, Not Necessarily Attractive” and twitter was alive with comments saying she smiled too much. Since when is a candidate deemed qualified based on their appearance? And to Mr. Trump who stated, “Well, I just don’t think she has a presidential look, and you need a presidential look.” She has been criticized for her voice, her clothes, her hairstyles and the list goes on.

We are about to elect the leader of the greatest country on earth and for many it is coming down to looks and well let’s face it gender. I may be wrong but some people I know who are staunch Trump supporters cannot give me a concrete reason for voting for him except they refuse to vote for Hillary.

Now we can all make assumptions as to what their reasoning is. I have no problem with someone who says they believe Trump is more qualified (well actually I do but we will save that for a later date), or they prefer his policies. But when they have no reason other than they hate Hillary? Well I find that a bit disconcerting.

I always thought being a President was different than a beauty pageant, although I am sure she would have scored high on smiling! Maybe I am out of step with reality.  We live in a world of reality tv telling us to be more like the Kardashians and the Real Housewives of Atlanta and where ever else they find mothers in heels and dresses sipping wine. I must have been doing something wrong in my sweats, minivan and convenient store coffee driving kids all over town. Heels? Really?

The sad fact remains, we as women are still judged on our looks and gender. Progress has been made but we still have a long road ahead. Perhaps, just perhaps if Hillary wins in November, we will have a new definition of what Presidential looks like.


Mother Plus…

What do you want to be when you grow up?

  • A Doctor?
  • A Nurse?
  • An Astronaut?

We all had childhood dreams and ambitions. Did yours come true? I often struggled with this question. My mother, who was widowed at forty-seven, always told me to have a career. Whatever else I did, I need to make sure and have a career to support me. But I didn’t want that. I got good grades was accepted to Loyola University, but never went.

I longed for something else. I wanted a family. I wanted to be a wife and mommy. The problem was there were no ads in the classifieds, no courses at the local college for such a position. So I whittled some years away working at the local mall and hanging out with friends till I met the man I wanted to marry. Some years later we had that family. Two beautiful daughters, the house with the white picket fence (yes, it really had one), dogs, cats, rabbits and a minivan to complete the picture.

I was happy. I had found my calling. I homeschooled the girls into high school, volunteered at church, worked occasionally part-time and spent many blissful hours in my gardens where I sowed vegetables, foxgloves, daisies, and whatever other flower I could get my hands on. Life was good and I was satisfied.

But suddenly something went wrong and now after all these years; I am a fifty year old divorced woman who is now an empty nester. As both girls are launching their own lives who do I take care of now?

Me! That’s who. I absolutely loved my old life and aside from a few rocky years during the divorce I still love it. But now it is time to take care of myself and find out what God has planned for my next chapter. I am and always will be a mother but now I can be a mother plus (always a mother but so much more). The last few years have given me cause for alot of prayer and soul-serching. Now, not only can I say that I am satisfied, but I am eager-eager to see where this leads, eager to experience new adventures, eager to discover the world and myself.

Someone once said you can’t be truly happy in life until you are happy with yourself. I believe that. We all have our quirks and bad habits but we all have gifts too. Life is learning how to take those gifts and make them meaningful. For a while it was raising my daughters. Now it is writing and exploring all about me.  It is time for my plus life. 

As long as you are breathing, you have time to find your gift. What is your gift? What is your plus?



Hello! I am so glad you dropped by. My name is Trish and I want to welcome you to Thinking Woman Today. This is a site created with you in mind and I want to invite you to visit often as we discuss topics from spirituality, parenting, politics and much more from a woman’s point of view. The world is a complex and wonderful place and as women today we owe it to ourselves our daughters and granddaughters to revel in our awesomeness, challenge our fears and push our limits to become all that we were created to be.