Skinned Knees & Broken Hearts

The Heartache of Parenting

My daughter called me today crying. I had to tell her I could not come over and hold her and make everything better. All I could do was listen. It felt like I had been kicked in the gut.

As a mother we always want to be able to at least comfort our children when they are hurting if we can’t make things better. But after almost 22 years, my baby girl has now moved across the state and where once I could wrap my arms around her and hold her close to calm her fears, now I only have a cold, lifeless phone to cross the distance and soothe the pain. 

Being a Mother is learning about the strengths you didn’t know you had…and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.

When our children are young life seems so big and dangerous, skinned knees, hot stoves, falling off chairs. But then as they grow older we realize how safe that time was and how we wish so desperately to go back to that simpler place. Oh how often I would kiss the boo boos and say “OK, now it’s all better.” And away they would go to tackle their next adventure. But now when my child hurts, it is often more a pain of the heart and I cannot seem to find a band-aid to fix that.

It is true; a parent feels the pain of their child. I do not know if it is because nothing is really new and we remember how we too had our hearts broken or lost that new job or is it much more? Once you become a parent, whether by birth or adoption or however that child came into your life they become a part of you. Suddenly our needs drop down the ladder. Those new shoes you have been looking at quickly become insignificant when you are looking at new bats for your favorite softball player.

God gives us many blessing but none so sweet and yet so painful as that of being a parent. But for all the pain, the grief, the skinned knees, the calls at 3 am, the broken hearts and banged up fenders I would not change a thing. Except to be able to hold them and wipe the tears away whenever they needed me.

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7 thoughts on “Skinned Knees & Broken Hearts

  1. This resonates with me. When my kids were younger, I thought that the exhaustion that came with meeting their physical needs was the hardest thing. But now that they’re older, I’m finding that meeting their emotional and spiritual needs is so much more grueling, but oh so deeply fulfilling.

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  2. I wholeheartedly agree. Being a parent is one of the hardest yet most fulfilling things I could have ever done in my life.

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  3. My daughter is in boot camp for the National Guard. You want to talk about a kick to the gut. It never gets easier, it is always worth it.

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  4. This article makes me grateful to have such a caring mother and father. I agree. It would be worth it to be a parent.

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  5. This is so true. I have two adult daughters and a couple weeks ago all I could do was listen to one of them sobbing so hard it was hard to make out the words. It was heart wrenching to listen and not be able to wrap my arms around her. Then more recently my other daughter is starting to have some complications with her pregnancy. It’s hard to be 18 hours away, but thankfully I am in a position where I can put my things on hold and go be with her. When they become adults it seems so much harder to comfort as they are living their own lives and we can’t just kiss the boo-boo and make the hurt go away as we once did.

    Thank you for your sharing.

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