Post Election: Finding the Truth

We are now one week out of the dramatic election which was 2016. Turmoil, fear, anger have ensued and people are looking for answers.

As an avid Facebook fan and regular internet user I know where I see blame.

My biggest complaint throughout this whole election season has been the actions of friends and family whom I had admired and respected. There wasn’t a day that went by in which purported “news” stories were being passed around social media like wildfire with outlandish headlines describing atrocities of both sides and opinions stated as facts.

Whether the person reposting these “stories” ever read the ensuing article or not I do not know, which further ads to my frustration. As an adult and as someone who values the written word I believe it is our duty to seek out truth and knowledge yet here are educated people falling for fake news.

If you asked most of your friends if they believe gossip is a good thing, their answer would most likely be, “absolutely not.” Yet here they are day in and day out spreading gossip.

If someone actually takes the time to read beyond the headline, they would see that most often these are nothing more than opinions crafted to steer your opinions to a bias view. There are rarely any facts to support the stories and no credible sources.

Discussing politics has always been challenging. We each bring our own views and experiences to the conversation. But now we have an added element of false information being taken as fact. Pew Research has shown that 4 in 10 Americans get their news online. Where once there was trust in the spoken word of Walter Cronkite, yes I am dating myself here; we now have anyone with an internet connection telling us the “news.”

As Americans we can all be disgusted at the protestors, the Trump supporters, the Muslims, the Blacks, Hispanics…the list goes on. But as Americans we owe it to ourselves and this country to become more educated. Look beyond the headlines, read past the opinions. Look for facts from all sides and make up your own mind.  Demand truth!

We owe it to ourselves, our neighbors, and our future generations.  

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I Voted Because of Her

100 years ago, Susan B. Anthony died, more than a decade before she could legally have voted. But legalities did not stop this courageous woman from casting her first vote for Ulysses S. Grant in the presidential elections. She was soon arrested. Fourteen years later, in 1920, the 19th Amendment was ratified granting women the right to vote.

In 2008 many believed, including myself, that there would never be a more monumental election than that of Barack Obama. Yet here we are just eight years later and once again we find ourselves on the edge of history.

“There never will be complete equality until women themselves help to make laws and elect lawmakers.”                                                                                               ― Susan B. Anthony

Now here we are in 2016 and another presidential election is upon us. As women we often take for granted what Susan B. Anthony and all the brave suffragettes fought so hard to achieve and here we are with a woman candidate who may very well be our next President of the United States.  

Our past is an honorable one of hard work, dedication, perseverance and belief in a better tomorrow. As we cast our votes today and every election in the future let us not forget what it means to our ancestors legacy and future generations of Susan B. Anthony’s and Hillary Rodham Clinton’s, who will continue breaking through that glass ceiling.

 

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Weddings

In just a few days my oldest daughter is marrying her best friend. As with all weddings, there are lots of last minute details, and the expected big hiccup. In this case, the DJ cancelled a week before the wedding. Nerves, anxieties all  piled on with little sleep. 

Yet remarkably I am relatively calm, tired yes, but calm. Sure, I know there is no possible way I am going to get every crease and wrinkle out of 250 chair covers and bows, and not all the centerpieces are exactly alike. Flower girls may run up the aisle or in one wedding I was at, refuse to put on shoes and go barefoot up the aisle! 

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In 1947, 69 years ago today, my mother married my father on a beautiful, unseasonable warm November day. Since it was shortly after WWII wedding dresses were not easily available and my mom wore a suit with a gardenia corsage. The wedding was a small affair, a brunch for close family and friends at the country club in town. Surprisingly, we have a video of the wedding party arriving at the club. I am not sure who to give credit to for that wonderful piece of memorabilia but it gives life to an event held long ago. 

They were married just 25 years when my father passed away but to my mom, it was a lifetime. She was just 47 years old and although she dated some, she never remarried. She always said, “Once you have the best, no one compares.” As a young girl growing up during this difficult time in my mother’s life I often romanticized their relationship. I am sure they had their difficulties, just as every couple does. But they made it work and had 5 children together. 

As my daughter and her fiance are getting ready for their big day, I can only wish one thing: To always remember love is a choice and a commitment meant to last a lifetime. Your wedding will be celebrated by friends and family, there will be music and dancing, children running around having fun, there will be laughter and tears but in the end…

      the wedding is mere wrapping on a present. The marriage is the true gift.